Recovering From Sexual Assault

Rape is a sexual offense that happens very often in all parts of the world. Many people are behind bars for this offense. According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) statistics, at least one in every five people has been sexually abused at some point in their lives. This is a heartbreaking fact that we all have to face. The numbers increase day after day, despite seminars, protests, and the creation of awareness against this vice.

Sexual assault may sound like a common offense for someone who has not experienced it. Nevertheless, the pain can be described as awful for the victims. This is because they not only need to recover from the physical pain but also deal with the aftermath. This is usually a tedious process that needs a shoulder to lean on. Having close friends, relatives, and confidants that can love and support you both emotionally and physically can help you recover from the trauma.

There is a myth that depicts females as the only victims of rape. However, people of all ages, including newborns as well as both genders can be assaulted sexually. Healing fully can take a long time, but it can be achieved. Here are some of the ideas that can help a victim to recover from trauma.

  • Accept it

Accepting that you were sexually abused at a certain period is the first step towards healing. Suffering from guilt and failing to accept that it surely happened does more harm than good. Hide in your closet and cry it out. Crying reduces emotional stress.

  • Open up to a person you trust

After accepting and dealing with your personal pain, open up to a close person. It is true that a problem shared is half solved. Pouring the pain and discussing it with someone that loves you can really give you a lot of relief. This person can support and encourage you through your journey to recovery.

  • Join a support group

Support groups are formed to help rape victims recover and lead normal lives. Joining one will open your eyes and make you realize that indeed you are not the only one. You will have a chance to meet other victims and share your experiences with them. Usually, members of support groups are encouraged to freely talk about their ordeals and feelings. This is definitely what you need to get over your past.

  • Get ready for flashbacks

Awful memories are what keep rape survivors from recovering fully. It is prudent to know that you must have such flashbacks so that you can prepare to deal with them. Trauma can lead to depression and Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Try to avoid things or situations that will make you remember what happened. For example, if you were raped in the dark, avoid darkness as much as possible. In case you flashback and your body start showing danger signs like nausea, dizziness, and fast breathing, pacify yourself by calming down and taking deep slow breaths.

In conclusion, trauma can lead to very adverse effects when not dealt with correctly. Support is all you need to recover from sexual assault. However, you need to support yourself first.

Embrace Your Dark Side With Mavericks

Mavericks Gentlemen’s Club will be hosting a Halloween Party on the 27th October 2018 from 7 pm to 4 am. Embrace your dark side with as our witches eat you alive. This Halloween party will be nothing short of spectacular, our witches will be displaying fearful antics from the Bloody Martini Glass Dance to the Witches Coven and the Freddy Kruger Dance. There will also be an Initiation Ceremony for 20 New Sacrificial Virgins as the highlight of the night.

The house of evil will be transformed into the Graveyard, Witches Lair, and scenes from Children of the Corn and Nightmare on Elm Street.

The Special

  • A Free Witches Blood Cocktail on entrance, and free entrance for ladies dressed in Halloween attire.
  • A year’s Silver VIP membership, worth R4500 will be awarded to the best dressed human visitor.
Conditions:

Pay to get in. Pray to get out. The entrance fee is R100

Join us this Halloween for something different and exciting. Gather together your ghostly souls, dig out your inner demons and join Mavericks Gentlemen’s Club, the hottest Cape Town nightclub

Julius Malema – Facts You Need To Know About Him

He originates from Seshego

Julius Sello Malema today is a widespread name both globally and locally. Also listed among the anti-apartheid heroes, Malema was born to single domestic worker mom in Seshego, Limpopo on 3 March 1981. He attended Mohlakaneng High School and later 2010 joined the University of South Africa for a Diploma in Youth Development. Julius then enrolled for a Bachelor of Arts degree in Communications and African languages and graduated in March 2016. Malema got married to the longtime love in 2014 and got one son.

Malema Began Controversies At a Tender Aage

The troublemaking Malema began his political advancements relatively early, at age nine when he joined the ANC movement, Masupatsela (Trailblazers). The primary duty involved illegally removing the National Party posters placed outside police stations. Malema got elected as both chairperson of the African National Congress Youth League (ANCYL) Seshego branch and the regional chair in 1995. After two years, he became the chair of the Congress of South African Students (COSAS) for the Limpopo province and became the national president in 2001.

Julius Records Many Ridicules

The many debated, socio-political statements from Malema make him a frequent target for ridiculing. For instance, he was quoted in 2003, saying that the student union got the determination to burn the prison Winnie Madikizela-Mandela got locked in to stop her detaining.

Also, he went viral globally in June 2008 declaring to wage war on supposed Jacob Zuma’s prosecutions about fraud and corruption. The remark drew widespread criticism and complaints. This remark from him made the ANC to moderately distance itself from his proclamation the following day.

He Has Allegations Too

Like any other politician, many corruption accusations have come handy to Malema. One is a report claimed by the media, City Press newspaper in July 2011 who mentioned the secret family trust and lavish lifestyle. The comments targeted Ratanang Family Trust, so-called after Malema’s five-year-old son. This company got certified a month barely after the election as the ANYCL president in Pretoria.

Also highlighted was the fact that many senior politicians, companies, mayors, contractors and municipal managers transacted thousands into the account. The findings were that the lavished amounts were in exchange for Malema supporting deals and pushing their agenda. But Malema reacted and disapproved the media for probing into his affluence.

Malema Got Suspended From ANC

On 16 August 2011, the ANC served charges to Julius Malema and Floyd Shivabmu, the spokesperson for the ANCYL. Both got charged with violating the ANC Constitution, for instance disgracing the ANC through the expressions and speeches on Botswana and propagating splitting up of the movement. The corrective trials were then fixed to start on 30 August and led to the suspension of the duo for three years.

He Is Against Denationalization

The suspension from the ANC triggered many political analysts to conclude that it meant the end of his political career. This came up since Malema relied on the past practice to get all agendas supported by the ANC. With the oath to fight against the incapacity of the South African government to launch domestic and international policies advantageous to the expansion of the country.

Malema Remain Radical In Seshego

The suspended duo created own political party, the Economic Freedom Fighters on 10 July 2013. Malema explained that the party came up with a new strategy against opposition parties like Agang South Africa. The parties primary objective lies on the unchanging land expropriation principles and nationalization of mines without compensation. The fiery youth leader still continues with his campaigns.

 

Cyberbullying: Facts About Internet Bullying

Nowadays, numerous people are using the internet for different purposes. Such purposes include online marketing, entertainment, communication, self-education, among many more. Nevertheless, there are people who misuse the internet and abuse others on social media. Have you ever woken up one morning only to find a negative story posted on social media about someone? Well, this is very common, especially among celebrities, politicians, and other public figures. Painting a bad impression about someone using electronic means is the ultimate definition of cyberbullying.

Bloggers are the biggest culprits that cyberbully others so as to seek attention for their posts. Bitter truth has it that readers love controversial posts, videos, and messages. Cyber harassment can take many forms. It can be a threat, an embarrassment, an allegation, or just any other abusive information. Cyberbullying affects people of all ages although teenagers are the most affected. They are the age group that spends the better part of their time on social media.

Cyberbullying is usually fun for the bully. However, it can be very fatal on the other end. Victims of this usually become suicidal or suddenly withdrawn from the public. A good example is when an employee has sex with his or her boss. When a video of them having sex leaks to the public, people respond to it differently. The biggest percentage will judge them harshly. No one wants to be the laughing stock, especially on social media. Cyberbullying has, over the years, left many victims internally wounded, marriages are broken, reputation spoiled, jobs lost, and self-esteem killed.

Many countries have taken cyberbullying as a topic of interest and are fighting against it. Measures have been set to curb this menace, although it is still ongoing. It is a crime to expose someone’s private life to the public. However, bloggers and other social media users still expose other people’s privacy for their own reasons. Most cyberbullies aim at soiling their victims’ reputation so as to destroy them in certain fields. Commonly, many competitors fight each other through cyberbullying. This usually happens when they send each other hurtful messages or spread rumors on social media platforms.

Research reveals that most cyberbullies, especially teenagers, are those that have once been abused in life. They abuse others in order to revenge and seek attention. Victims of cyberbullying are usually traumatized and do not easily get over it. Apparently, the internet never forgets. This makes recovery even harder for the bullied. Their psychology and general social lives are usually affected a great deal. On the other hand, the bullies usually seem to enjoy, especially when they completely put down the victim.

In conclusion, cyberbullying is one of the worst nightmares that should be eliminated fully. Taking advantage of someone’s vulnerability is not the best way to handle issues. More strict rules should be set to control the content that people post on social media. Huge penalties should be imposed on the culprits to ensure that other possible bullies are scared away. Furthermore, social media authorities should create awareness on cyberbullying and restrain people from posting offensive content.

 

Cape Town Luxury Accommodation – All You Need To know

Cape Town, Western Cape, South Africa, Southern Africa, Africa

Are you heading down to Cape Town soon for a business meeting, holiday or for other reasons well known to you? Among other stunning locations across the globe, Cape Town makes into the lists of some of the most alluring and inviting world destinations. Do you wonder the reason(s) behind this? Besides many other attractions such as the World Heritage Site that is Robben Island, a thriving coffee culture, and penguins in Simonstown among others, Cape Town is spectacularly located in between a levelled-off mountain and two oceans! These are some of the factors that

But as you head down to Cape Town (probably for a holiday vacation), the accommodation or a place to crash after a day out really matters especially if you are particular about luxury accommodation. But what does luxury accommodation actually entail? What are the characteristics and fine details make up luxury accommodation or that WOW-factor that surely makes your heart skip a beat? Is it the high-quality of room service offered? Is it the interior decoration? Or is it the high levels of exclusivity and exceptional dining?

Lately, the concept of luxury accommodation isn’t limited to the best or finest Russian caviar, the 1000-count-thread of sheets, gleaming bathroom tiles or legendary service. In fact, now more than ever, a couple of imaginative hotels and resorts are being developed globally from treetop hideaways to underwater hotels that are pushing the boundaries of luxury accommodation higher than ever imagined. Regardless of how much hotels try to innovate, there remain some “basic” requirements that they have to meet not only for purposes of ensuring that they make their experiences welcoming, but comforting to guests also.

When it comes to treating its guests to luxury accommodation, hotels, lodges, resorts, villas, and motels in Cape Town seem to have mastered the art of creating memorable experiences for their guests. Do Tea Sommeliers, Fragrance Butlers, and Pet Psychics somehow sound familiar to you? What about Private Pools, Private Butlers, Personal Shoppers, and Chauffeurs? The menu of ideas that hotels in Cape Town have in place to pamper and subsequently overwhelm their guests seem endless and are expected to get grander and even more outrageous in the coming years.

The number of hotels, villas, resorts, and lodges in Cape Town are uncountable. However, the need to stay relevant in the face of cut-throat competition that characterizes the hospitality industry is pushing a lot of them to the limit in terms of providing their guests with luxury accommodation. Nearly all of them have in a place free wireless connectivity, king-sized beds, private patios and Jacuzzi with some panoramic views across the city. In fact, some of them have gone ahead to include private movie theatre rooms, lounges, multilingual staff, smoking zones, fireplaces, and rooms decorated in tranquil colour tones.

So, are you heading to Cape Town soon? Are you particular about luxury accommodation during your stay? Besides Cape Town promising to offer you scenic views and plenty of other activities to do, luxury accommodation shouldn’t trouble you at all. With hotels doing everything to ensure that they remain relevant in the face of increased competition, you’ll be spoilt for choice regarding lodges, hotels, and resorts that offer luxury accommodation.

Moment Of Silence For Those In Friendzone

Being friendzoned means being romantically interested in someone who only sees you as nothing more than a friend. People usually come up with a long list of reasons behind being friendzoned, whereas sometimes a person might choose to keep you as a friend because they value the bond they have with you way too much to let be ruined by a relationship that might not even work. Think about it, once you cross the relationship lines going back is almost impossible. Being friendzoned is somewhat a blessing, because you get to be closer and get to know that particular person in a different way.

With that said, friendzone is tough and a very uncomfortable zone to be in, being in love with someone and being forced to settle for friendship instead of a relationship. Here are some ideas on how to remain strong in friendzone

  • Be calm, friendly and supportive.

  • Be that friend that they need and give them complete closeness.

  • Avoid acting jealous and possessive

  • Spend time together and do fun activities

  • Have a life of your own, try seeing other people while you are being a good friend, that will boost your morale.

  • Be positive and fun to have around. No one wants to surround themselves with life sucking, energy draining people.

One important thing to remember is that everything is about you so have fun and remain undefeated by being friendzoned, there’s so much to life than getting yourself worked up over petty temporal issues.

Cherish the good times and move on.

Things To Consider Before Getting Married

Getting married is one of the biggest decisions of your life and you need to be realistic when taking the decision to tie the knot. After the excitement and the magic of deciding to get married dies down a little, there’s important facts that both you and your partner will need to consider. A few have been listed below

Financial Stability

Nothing kills the spark in a marriage like financial problems. Financial issues are a true relationship killer and can often result in a divorce. Even though discussing finances might cause tension but it is better to make informed decisions than to find yourself living with a financial burden that might cost you sanity and the person you love.

Trust and Loyalty

Trust should be one of the core foundations of any marriage. When trust is broken in a marriage its foundation shakes and causes unhappiness which is not healthy for any relationship. There are many things that might result in loss of trust, some are big and some are small things. One thing to remember though is that you need to be honest at all times so your partner can learn to trust you at all times. Loss of trust in a marriage or committed relationship is one of the major reasons people end up separated.

Starting a family

Children are an important part of a marriage and at some point, your partner might want to have some babies running around the house. You need to know where you stand with regards to having kids and when you think you will be ready to have kids.

After the kitchen parties, bachelor parties and the big wedding day the real work will start and you need to be physically and mentally ready to make your marriage a success. There’s nothing nice when marriages end, so you need to be in it wholeheartedly.

Why WordPress is Ideal For Lead Generation Sites

Having set up and optimized countless sites with the goal of improving a businesses organic traffic footprint I often get asked the question, “Which CMS is the best for SEO?”. To which I can only answer there is none and Google will intend to keep it that way for as long as possible. I’ve worked with PHP, ASP.Net, Ruby and JS based sites which all have their merits and shortcomings. The issues only really make a difference when you’re righting bespoke features or you need to scale, which doesn’t affect most sites. So when a small business asks me what would the ideal platform be, I’d have to say it depends on what you’re trying to achieve.

For E-commerce

I would opt for shopify and for a personal site or blog where you don’t need to have any coding experience, I’d opt for Wix or Squarespace. For a service based business/lead generation site, I would opt for WordPress

Lead generation sites can be anything from law firms, gyms to custom clothing. This versatile site structure allows owners to build up an online reputation which can later be used to pivot into other areas like publishing or eCommerce and is by far the most popular use for WordPress.

So why is WordPress perfect for lead generation sites wanting to take advantage of organic traffic? Let’s dive in and see!

The Current State Of WordPress

WP is an open source CMS built on PHP and currently powers over 30% of all the websites existing over the Internet and has certainly come a long way since its release on 27 May 2003, by Matt Mullenweg and Mike Little. It’s 2018 and WordPress continues to grow, steadily yet magnificently.

WordPress is definitely one of the favorite choices. But the question is whether it is a good choice for accomplishing the SEO goals that you are trying to achieve, so let’s find out what WordPress has to offer.

Easy Optimization

Lead generation sites that want to take advantage of SEO will need to produce content regularly and push it out fairly easily and this is exactly what WordPress offers you. Even If you are new to blogging, WordPress makes it easy by prompting users to take advantage of optimization techniques. When creating a post-WP will ask you to add the ‘Meta description’, ‘Tags and Categories’, ‘Meta Data’, ‘Keywords’, ‘Excerpt’, etc. Once you are there, optimizing will truly be a ‘click-of-your finger’ process.

Search-Engine Friendly URLs

Also known as permalinks, the chosen URL structure for your website posts is a crucial determinant of how search engines will perceive your content.  Having an URL structure that makes sense for users and crawlers alike can make navigation a breeze and content discovery easy.

With WordPress, you can either choose to go with the generated permalink that is based on an ID number, or you can create your own URL. You can also set URL rules and have WP self-generate URLs based on the pages you create.

Super-Powerful SEO Plugins

The Yoast SEO plugin and the All-in-One SEO Pack plugin are the undisputed market leaders when it comes to WordPress SEO. Their premium versions offer a set of even more powerful features than the free ones. Here are some of the amazing features offered by the free versions of each of them

Speedy Content Turn-Around

If you are a website owner or a blogger, you know that search engines rank websites that turn around content speedily or in a regular manner. WordPress has a simple yet powerful text editor that helps you to create killer content that is both engaging and informative.

Faster Loading Time

As the mobile internet becomes more and more popular site speed has become one of the most important metrics when rating the user experience of a site. Slow loading sites often get demoted in rankings as they offer users a frustrating experience which Google does not want.

If a website takes more than 2-3 seconds to load, a high percentage of visitors tend to abandon the site there and then. Even if you are doing everything as directed by your site’s SEO strategy and yet fail to take measures that make your website speedy, you are in for a huge loss. However, WordPress speed optimization plugins can help you resolve this.

Note: Take it easy on the plugins even though they can be helpful using too many will have your site becoming sluggish and can even see plugins logic clashing with one another.

For more on site, speed recommendations check out these posts

SEO-Friendly Themes

WordPress takes the technical know how out of setting up a site as skilled developers are constantly creating templates that you can and configure with SEO-friendly features that have been optimized for speed and performance. To find out more about SEO friendly themes check out some of the best SEO-friendly themes for 2018.

In conclusion

WordPress offers a low barrier to entry solution that can be scaled up fairly easily for your average lead generation site. The way it has been developed has kept content in mind and with its main strength derived from it being a blogging platform.

WordPress’s open-source nature has helped the platform grow as an SEO-friendly website builder as the community responds to changes in the search algorithms and environment so you don’t have to keep up with all the technical trends and can purely focus on updating your site and generating content.

What Characteristics Define a Boss Bad

Management styles differ among organizations and may potentially affect employee’s job satisfaction.  A bad management style can do more than just irritate workers, it can send them searching for a new job because no one wants to work with a miserable, difficult and uncaring boss, people generally want to surround themselves with positive people.

A bad boss can either be

  • A boss who yells and reacts emotionally on a regular basis.

  • A boss who is unclear of the goal, unclear of how to go about achieving it

  • A boss who micromanages employees to an itty-bitty level, micromanaging goes beyond providing guidance

  • A boss who does not take decisions; sits on issues expecting them to get resolved on their own

  • A boss who continually pushes you to the edge of your composure while his purpose is to make it clear to you that he is running the show

  • A boss who thinks they know everything and rules by intimidation

The worst thing about being a bad boss is that you don’t realize it. They think that their employees like them, enjoy working with them when the actual truth is that they are scared and mostly just drama.

Bad management style can totally demotivate employees, which damages productivity, it is harmful to employees as passive smoking is to those around you. To all bosses and managers out there if you have lower productivity, poor morale and higher staff turnover, then start thinking. You can keep playing by the old rules, or you can get the most from your employees by learning to master the new game and it’s called being polite

Here’s How You Win Online With SEO

Equipping yourself with the right skills of generating revenue online is not only important but also necessary. There are many ways you can spur revenue online either through creating your own online business or by implementing products and services such as online marketing.

A good start would be developing a website and getting it SEOd. Search Engine Optimization is a business’s best friend, and there are a number of SEO tools that will help you to get your website noticed by search engines. However, SEO is about more than just blog articles, keywords, and linkbacks, in order to make the most of what the web has to offer, you need a solid SEO strategy, the spray and pray technique has never worked in this industry and it never will.

Search Engine Optimization is the fine-tuning process intended to maximize the number of visitors who come to your website but things have changed over the years. Google which one of the major search engines is constantly upgrading their algorithms to better understand user queries, the emphasis has been on user satisfaction.  Unfortunately, the unethical use of black hat SEO techniques like faking organic results by seeding keywords into irrelevant content is the thing of the past.

Get your SEO right if you want to get attention from search engines. Many believe that SEO is dead but as SEO Analyst I’m here to tell you that SEO is alive and well and whilst you spending time building your brand, identity, marketing strategy and get your SEO right and you stand to benefit enormously. SEO plays a vital role in scaling up sales and overall web presence success.